Thursday, September 14, 2017

Another of those "let-me-make-excuses-for-my-forthcoming-absence" kind of posts...


Well, friends I've decided.  I think.  (At least I am attempting to decide.) 
 
(Oh Miss Woodhouse please, please do influence me!)

*squares shoulders and looks determined*
 
I have made up my mind.  

(There I said it.)

For a while now I've been feeling that something has to give.  I've just been so overwhelmed by all the things I have to do, trying to keep up with everything, and yada, yada, yada.  And so I think it really is necessary for me to take a bit of a break from blogging.  A half break at least.   Which means--in short (now I feel like Mr. Micawber)--that I shall not be commenting on anyone's posts for an indefinite period of time. 

(Do you think I'm right?)
 
Okay.  Now I feel like a rotten friend. 
 
Why of course you do!  To not comment on your friends' posts?!  Miss March, what callousness is this?!

You really ARE...a rotten friend.  *withering look*
 
I know.  But reasons, people.  There are reasons! 
 
~*~
 
1. I have a tendency to put too much pressure on myself to comment on every single post my friends write, and it's gotten to the point that I can't even enjoy reading the posts like I normally would because I'm always jumping ahead, thinking about what I should say in my comment!  Like I should be feeling happy when a new post pops up, not feeling discouraged because "oh no! now I have to write something in response!"  You know what I mean?

2. I have a pile up of posts that I very much want to buckle down and write, because pile ups of any kind stress me out!  But commenting always seems to take precedent over that for some reason.  There's just so many blogs to keep up with and so many posts, and yeah, only one of me.  But I really want to tackle some of the posts that have been languishing in my drafts for months (and some of the new ones that are just now taking shape in my brain) and as I can't do it all well...something has to go.

3. I realize that this stress to comment on every post is an expectation that I'm putting on myself.  I know, and you know, that not one of us has time to comment on everything.  But still the expectation is there, and so other things get dropped in order to at least try and meet it.  I guess it's because I worry that if I don't comment someone may take it personally, thinking that I didn't like their post.  Or (and this is the selfish, bratty person in me coming out) that if I don't keep up with other people's blogs, everyone's going to forget about me, and my blog will just sail away into utter oblivion.  (Probably where it needs to be at this juncture.)

Am I making any sense?  (I'm not even sure that point 3 should have been a point at all.  Oh well.) 

Basically, what I'm trying to say is this, it's really hard to start picking and choosing between which posts I should comment on and which I shouldn't so I think I need to stop commenting all together for a  time and then work my way back in gradually and in a more stress free manner.   I just want to make sure you all know that I care about you!  And that my not commenting on one of your posts does NOT mean that I didn't like it...(oh, I don't know why I'm even explaining this.  I'm sure you all understand what I'm trying to say.)

So yeah.  That's that.  I just wanted to let you all know that I'm going to be dropping out of the commenting world for a  bit.  I feel really tired and disoriented and I need a chance to catch my breath and refocus.  Hopefully I'll be able to post more often in the meanwhile, but we'll see how that goes.  
 
Thank you all for being such amazing friends!  I hope this post made sense.  And I hope you're all having a lovely, lovely week!! 
 
Yours truly,
Miss March
 
Did YOU understand this post?  Did YOU?  Honestly, THIS GIRL DRIVES ME NUTS!!!
 
(Okay, that was random.  But this picture made me laugh and I just had to think of some way to include it.  Heehee.  :D)
 

22 comments:

  1. Oh, I know just what you mean. I totally do. I expect the same of myself and it really is stressful sometimes. (And the "on no, now I have to write up something in response!" is quite relatable. It does take the fun out of reading sometimes.) So please, do, take a break (goodness, for your sake completely, of course. Don't you DARE take that to mean I don't want you around. Good gracious.) We understand completely. And you're the most darling, sweet person there is, always so understanding when I've had to take a break, so I shall endeavor to be the same (just this once. It does so pain me to be nice).

    Good luck with everything! I hope you get everything under control soon, but take all the time you need!
    Love you, dear!

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    1. Oh, Rae, you dear sweet girl! THANK YOU! I'm so glad you understand. <3

      "(just this once. It does so pain me to be nice)." Hahaha. That made me smile. :D

      Thank you! I hope so, too.

      LOVE YOU! <3 <3

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  2. Of course it makes sense! Don't feel like you must make excuses - you are under no obligation whatsoever! Completely understand. x

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  3. I totally understand, Miss March! Don't worry, I feel a lot of the same struggles, and I at least won't forget you :)

    Catherine
    catherinesrebellingmuse.blogspot.com

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    1. Aww, CATHERINE! Thank you! You're so sweet. :)

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  4. Of course, Miss March, that is completely understandable. Especially if it means you have time to work on more of your own posts for us to enjoy;

    ~Elanor

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  5. HAHA, THE PICTURES. XD

    I totally understand, Miss March! In fact, I'm a bit like that myself. Just try not to be too hard on yourself. ;)

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  6. I get you, girl, I really do. :)

    And the way you worked in the "Emma" screenshots/quotes is pure brilliance.

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    1. Thanks, Eowyn. That means a lot! <3

      And awww, thanks. *blushes* :)

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  7. I struggle with this too! I have spent so many years feeling guilty whenever I fall behind in reading people's posts, and yet... real life comes first, you know?

    I finally realized that I absolutely never write a post and then sit around thinking, "Man, so-and-so didn't comment on this. And neither did so-and-so. Don't they like me anymore?" I happily respond to whatever comments I get, and that's that. And so I decided that probably, other bloggers are the same, and no one is wringing their hands if I don't comment on their posts, or even read all their posts!

    So now I read only the posts that interest me, and only comment if I really have something to say. I 100% encourage you to feel the same. It's very freeing.

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    1. I know. It's so easy to feel guilty about it. But you're right! Real life definitely has to come first!

      Haha, true! I'm sure most people are not doing that. My problem is that personally I do tend to worry sometimes if I don't hear from someone for a while (I can be kind of insecure when it comes to friendships I guess) and so naturally I start to put those feelings onto everyone else and worry that they're feeling bad if I don't comment. The sensible part of my brain tells me I'm making a bigger deal out of it than it has to be, and that's it's really nothing to worry about...but yeah. Sometimes my sensible brain doesn't win out! Haha. ;P

      That does sound so freeing! And really, I think that's the best way to do it. Hopefully I'll be able to get to that point myself before too long. Maybe this break will help with that. :)

      Thank you so much for your encouragement, Hamlette! It means a lot! :D

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  8. 100 points for SPOT ON usage of all those Emma pictures. :D (That last one was hysterical!!!)

    I hope your break is extremely resting and renewing, dear. *hugs* I think you're making a good choice for now. We'll still be here when you get back! (But we'll definitely miss you, that's for sure. <3)

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    1. Haha, thanks!! :D

      Awww. Thank you so much, Natalie! *returns hugs* I'll be missing you all too!!

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  9. I always did wonder how on earth you managed it all, Miss March! I don't think we bloggers deserve you and your comments (I certainly don't!), especially since your comments are so thoughtful and kind. And I certainly don't return the favor as often as I ought. So I completely understand cutting things back a bit. Don't worry/stress about it, and enjoy writing those blog posts! :)

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    1. Aww, Abby. You're too sweet! *blushes*

      But thank you! Thank you so much for all your kind words. Your comment encouraged me greatly! *hugs* :)

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  10. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND!!!! I am currently drowning beneath fifty or so posts myself...

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